"Masturbation has long been a solo activity for most men and women.
This seems to be a very private activity and one that people are not always willing to share with their partners.
I know that a lot of partners are threatened by their partners need or desire to masturbate. They usually feel like
there is something that they are not providing for their partner or that they are inadequate sexually or don't
sexually satisfy their partner. So rather than have their partners be disappointed or upset they sneak into the
bathroom and masturbate privately and hope not to get caught."
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"With all that wonderful sex, I was surprised to discover I was masturbating more, not less, whenever we weren't together."
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"After several years of marriage my wife accepts that I often have sexual urges when she does not want to have full sex. She, therefore, lets me masturbate in front of her. When she thinks I am feeling horny she will ask if I want to have a wank. I am usually quite eager. If I am clothed I undo my pants and take out my penis and start to get it hard (if it isn`t already). It feels really rude with her watching as I continue to masturbate. She will usually give me encouragement like "keep rubbing" or "make yourself come". I keep wanking until I feel myself ready to come when I hold my penis tight as I ejaculate. She often puts down a towel to catch the semen which is ejaculated. It is an enjoyable experience for both of us. She enjoys watching as I get myself aroused."
" . . . While we were sailing I would go below and masturbate in the head. I would open the hatch hopeing someone would look below. I don't know if I did it to get caught or just to be able to have a quick orgasum. We arrived at the first island a I noticed it was a nude beach. I went in to shore with some of the couples and the girl I was traveling with. We got to the beach and right away I was turned on seeing allot of naked men and women. I walked across the small island were we were going to snorkle and layed down on the beach and took off my suit. I started to masturbate and was hoping someone was watching. I came right away and noticed that one of the men on the trip had seen me. He noticed that I was shaved down below and asked me with his wife, after they walked over, and I had my suit back on, what it was like to be shaven below. I took off my suit and said it felt great masturbating, also while _____ a girl who was also shaved and it made me look bigger down there also. I started to get a hard on telling them this and he told his wife that he was surprised because he just watched me masturbating. We all got naked a hung out on the beach and sunbathed. When we got back to the boat they both wanted to get shaved so I was happy to do it. He had one of the biggest dicks I have ever seen. She also had big lips that looked great after I shaved around them. They were so happy that we all masturbated right there. First time I have done anything like that before . . ."
"Even though I am in my 70s I have been enjoying this website.still lots to learn for me.my wife is no longer interested in sex and have I become obsessed with the thought of finding a male friend with the same feelings to expermit with.i end up masturbating when I think of this friend in his white briefs with a nice bulge.i have never done anything gay but I am ready,the big problem is who can one trust,mean time I am masturbating to the thought,i wonder how many older guys are thinking the same way and where do I find them?"
"A good friend of mine jacked me off when I was a teenager -- my first orgasm. What an experience!! It was marvelous. To this day--nearly 50 years later--I think of that grand experience. For the longest time, I thought masturbation was evil. I have no memory of being taught that, but, somehow, I sensed that "good boys" don't do it. So jacking off was done in private and on a regular basis and almost exclusively alone. Even after marriage and grandchildren, I find it pleasurable. It was only in mid-life that I came to see masturbation as normal--something virtually every male does and should be able to do without a sense of guilt. I wish it were possible for our churches to be able to communicate this fact to young people as they enter puberty. It would save them a lot of pain and anguish. Now I am sure that some will think I am advocating an open sexual ethic. Not so! I think sex between a man and a woman should be reserved to those who have made a long term commitment to one another. It is not simply a recreational activity; it is a powerful emotion that can be for good or evil. If I had to do it over, I would be more open with my sons about masturbation, about sexuality generally. It is a God-given biological urge; not something to be ashamed of. "
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"Dear Alice,
I really don't know where the clitoris is. I have tried many times to touch my girlfriend's clitoris, but she can't feel anything. Of course, she can't get any feeling from intercourse. What can I do now?
Searching for the Wild Clitoris"
" . . . when my boyfriend "goes down" on me, I worry about what he thinks of my smell and taste. He says he likes it, but I can't be sure...is there some way of finding out if my scent is normal? Can he pass any infections (to my vagina) from his saliva? (He has had only 1 one-night stand affair and he used a condom that time).
Also, I masturbate him (I stroke his penis) until he "comes," but I'm afraid of tasting his "come." He hasn't asked me to, but I think he would like it if I did...how can I overcome this inhibition?"
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"Masturbation can have a negative impact on a marriage if it is taking the place of having sex with a spouse. It can also hurt a marital relationship if a partner's self esteem is damaged by the activity. Many therapists believe that couples should not make a big deal about masturbation as it is so common place. If they can communicate their needs and desires with one another, masturbation shouldn't be a problem in their marriage." "You can give a vaginal massage while you are giving a clitoral massage. While one hand stimulates her clitoris, the other can be used to stimulate her vagina. By inserting your finger into her vagina, and stimulating the top of her vaginal wall, pointing your finger toward her pubic bone, you can stimulate her G-spot, urethral sponge. The finger movement for G-Spot stimulation is the same as that when indicating to a person across the room that you want them to come to you, the palm of your hand facing up, creating a hook with your index finger. This can produce very strong orgasms and pronounced ejaculations of fluid from the urethra.You can explore the vagina and locate areas that are sensitive to digital stimulation, or she may simply enjoy the feeling of something being in her vagina, not moving at all, or slowly. You can insert more than one finger depending on her flexibility and desire to be filled. You can also insert your entire hand into her vagina, fisting, which can result in a very strong sexual response from her. This is much easier for female couples as they usually have small hands. Fisting is an advanced skill that takes a lot of practice and sensitivity." The-clitoris.com
Mutual Masturbation by Ann Andriani
Mutual masturbation is seen as a pretty taboo act to engage in with someone else, since generally masturbation is seen as a bad thing to do. And if you did masturbate with someone else, it would be admitting that you do it. And masturbation is something to be done in private, right? WRONG!
Mutual masturbation can be an incredibly exciting sexual encounter between two, or even more, people. Sharing this with your partner can be a great way for your partner to learn how you like to be touched and stimulated. By watching my boyfriend, I have learned how he likes his penis stroked. It’s a very slow and steady stroking, with a little caressing of the head of the penis as well. I have also learned that when he’s about to climax, a more tighter grasp and faster stroking is necessary, but do not touch the head. Touching the head can ruin it all. He has also learned by watching me, I like my outer lips rubbed in a circular motion, as opposed to just up and down and indirect clitoral stimulation in the beginning and once I’m well aroused, direct clitoral stimulation is a must.
The Show
It can also be very visually exciting, to watch your partner receiving the ultimate pleasure. I say it’s the ultimate pleasure because only your partner knows what he/she likes best. It brings out the voyeur in us and everyone is a little bit of a voyeur to some extent.
Everyone likes to put on a show at one time or another, and this is the best way to do it. There’s no better way to feel sexy than pleasing yourself in front of your partner. Make a whole show of it too, get all dressed up and strip for your lover, then get down and dirty with yourself. Be honest with your excitement, if what you’re doing feels really good, let him/her know. Genuine excitement can be the ultimate turn on. I love to do it when my boyfriend is driving, because it’s such a big tease. He so wants me, but he can’t have me.........unless he pulls over to the side of the road and jumps my bones. But most of the time, I won’t let him. He can’t have me till we get home. What a great tease!
Safety
It’s also a very exciting form of safe sex. There really isn’t any exchange in dangerous bodily fluids, unless you’re sharing toys. Then make sure that a new barrier, like a condom, is put on from one person to the next.
You don’t have to worry about what to do, because you’re partner is doing what he/she likes, so it’s a very relaxing activity, no performance anxiety.
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You can pleasure yourself, while your lover is stimulating another part of your body. While your lover is stimulating you, you can put your hand over his/hers and go through the motions with them and if all goes well, he/she will allow you to do it.As you are masturbating your lover, masturbate yourself.Or simply discuss the issue with your lover and see if it’s something he/she is interested in doing.
This is a very intimate activity when you involve your lover in your secret activity. It can be very exciting, so please don’t keep it hidden away as a private activity, share it with the one you love or lust.
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THE FOOD OF LOVE
"One of the recurring fantasies I've had over the years is using strawberries with my lover. I plan on doing that in the very near future and I'll let you know how that goes. But getting back to the fantasy....I've envisioned my lover picking out the most ripe and beautifully shaped strawberries he can find and then surprising me with them. He'll take a strawberry and offer it to me to have a bit of a lick on it and savor the sweetness inside my mouth, then take that strawberry and suck on it himself then slowly trail the red berry down my neck and onto each breast letting it touch each nipple. As that sensual berry slowly glides down my stomach straight to my waiting and trembling pussy.....he takes that strawberry and gently puts it inside me....oh the feelings, the magic of the just warmed fruit from our mouths.....we then both savor that berry that was inside me and after each tasting of that love covered fruit we have a very long, sensuous kiss. Then it's on to more strawberries...."
Dinner for two by Jenne
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Gently suck on her clitoris; delicately draw more blood into it. Once you find a form of stimulation that is pleasurable for her, maintain that stimulation until she experiences orgasm, if one is desired. If she is not able to experience orgasm, continue the stimulation for as long as it is pleasurable for the both of you. Cunnilingus need not include orgasm for it to be very pleasurable and satisfying.
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Q. My partner wants to watch me masturbate, but I'm too embarrassed to do it properly. What's the best way for me to relax enough to be convincing?
A. Talk to your partner about this and try to relax together. Don't do anything you feel very uncomfortable with, but do try to enjoy showing yourself off. Many men and women fantasise about watching their partner masturbate, so your lover will probably be too aroused to notice any embarrassment on your part. Maybe asking your partner to go first will help. Try watching the first Lovers' Guide video, which will show you how enjoyable and beneficial sharing this experience can be.
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